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The covert way Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) can start
After I had come forward with the abuses that were going on my home at the hands of my husband, I was often met with confusion – people wanted to know, “why didn’t you just leave?” I had no explanation for them. I couldn’t explain it for myself. I think the reasons it was difficult for others, as well as myself, to comprehend how I found myself where I did was because I am an educated woman. I am a well-traveled woman. I had a career and my own money. I am a strong woman. I have a large close-knit family. I am involved in the communities that I have…
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Making Water Kefir: The correlation between gut health and reducing the negative effects of stress.
There have been numerous studies and research done on the correlation between gut health and reducing the negative effects that stress and anxiety have on our bodies. Research shows that eating probiotic foods — like kefir, kombucha, sauerkraut, kimchi, and live yogurt cultures are good ways to help lower the stress hormone – cortisol and reduce psychological stress symptoms In an ideal environment, our body releases hormones like cortisol and adrenalin during a time of stress to incite our fight or flight instinct and to stay on high alert to protect ourselves. These hormones should level out when the danger is removed. People experiencing domestic violence or trauma are often in…
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“There are only two types of people in the end”
I’ve not been able to read a book since leaving jail. In jail, I read to save my sanity and the life of my baby. Since jail, I cannot read a single paragraph without my mind wandering elsewhere. I find that I have either not turned pages, nor continued reading while lost in thought; or I will find that I have gone over the lines and turned pages and have no idea what I have just “read” while lost in thought. Since returning from El Paso with my animals and what was left of my belongings that I could fit in a 9’11” x 6’3” x 6’1” box, I’ve had…
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Official Decline to Prosecute, EPTX DA
I’ve not gotten into the event on Christmas Eve that ignited my desire to publish this site to advocate for myself and all aspects associated with domestic violence as a whole. I’ve started dribbling the site out there and know that some people may already know a version of the event. I’ve put tidbits of mine out there. I wanted to make sure- at a minimum, no matter what you are hearing, you can see the DA dropped all the quackery. Ask yourself why?
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Why you should start video-journaling
I started video journaling in 2020 or 2021 when I was just too down in the dumps to be bothered to write in my journal, everything felt so overwhelming that I did not even know where to start writing, and I just wanted someone to talk to. I had picked up writing in a journal just before my video-journaling. Handwriting in the journal itself was a bit cathartic for me. I liked to see my cursive pen in the book and I liked the feeling of having a pen that wrote smoothly over the notebook pages. I had thought to start keeping an electronic journal because the handwriting was definitely…
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Anger is often a warning system it tells us something is wrong
A lot of days are shocking, overwhelming, confusing. I have trouble focusing on the task at hand. I have trouble falling asleep and getting back to sleep if I wake in the night. All I want to do, is to shut my brain off. I want to be able to sit and focus on research for an article, I want to be able to watch a television show, I want to be able to focus on the conversation I am having, I want to be able to remember to think of God and pray each day, and…I want to be able to complete a simple article … …but my brain…
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Airing dirty laundry?
Man, oh man, this website is always popping into my brain to toss me a bit of anxiety each day. I struggle often with how I want this website to function, what is helpful versus what is just hatefulness, and so much more. I would imagine almost everyone in their lifetime have had terrible things happen, great friends stab them in the back, and overall disgusting and unfair bullshit dealt them at the hands of another person. I think we are judged on how we handle those trials in life, and we respect the people who can turn the other cheek, who can look the other way, let God do…
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Struggling: trauma, identity, purpose
One of the reasons I wanted to make this website was to show the raw and real moments that someone experiencing trauma is living through behind the curtains of what they show. For me, one, I believe that everyone is struggling with their own loads in life and I do not want to be someone in their life that does anything but adds support, love, and happiness. I never want to be one more burden on them. Next, when I do open up about what I want or need to those closest to me, it’s not met with open arms and I end up leaving the conversation feeling more deflated…
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Video Journal: Creating Intentions
I’m working on a larger post that is going to take me a bit to finish up. While I’m uploading some videos for it and trimming the fat from them, I thought I should take a break to put up some of my video journals that I’ve made since being back home with my parents in Virginia. I think my plan for this site will be to put edited video journals with posts, but possibly leaving the uncut video journal up on the Youtube page, so that anyone struggling with something similar can see just the full spectrum of emotions in one video and the steam of consciousness. I hope…
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Yeah, some triggers make me angry
“Triggered” has become one of those overused words the last couple of years, and it makes me nervous to use any word that really makes the circles in the world of domestic abuse because I know that for me, I almost shutdown when the first words out of every single post I read are, “my narcissistic ex”. I find myself raising an antenna to the next words that come out of that person’s mouth. Why? – no idea; and it makes me furious with myself, because if I’m being honest, I want to start my story with what I’m pretty sure too – “my narcissistic husband…” lol. I don’t delve…
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