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The covert way Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) can start
After I had come forward with the abuses that were going on my home at the hands of my husband, I was often met with confusion – people wanted to know, “why didn’t you just leave?” I had no explanation for them. I couldn’t explain it for myself. I think the reasons it was difficult for others, as well as myself, to comprehend how I found myself where I did was because I am an educated woman. I am a well-traveled woman. I had a career and my own money. I am a strong woman. I have a large close-knit family. I am involved in the communities that I have…
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Making Water Kefir: The correlation between gut health and reducing the negative effects of stress.
There have been numerous studies and research done on the correlation between gut health and reducing the negative effects that stress and anxiety have on our bodies. Research shows that eating probiotic foods — like kefir, kombucha, sauerkraut, kimchi, and live yogurt cultures are good ways to help lower the stress hormone – cortisol and reduce psychological stress symptoms In an ideal environment, our body releases hormones like cortisol and adrenalin during a time of stress to incite our fight or flight instinct and to stay on high alert to protect ourselves. These hormones should level out when the danger is removed. People experiencing domestic violence or trauma are often in…
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“There are only two types of people in the end”
I’ve not been able to read a book since leaving jail. In jail, I read to save my sanity and the life of my baby. Since jail, I cannot read a single paragraph without my mind wandering elsewhere. I find that I have either not turned pages, nor continued reading while lost in thought; or I will find that I have gone over the lines and turned pages and have no idea what I have just “read” while lost in thought. Since returning from El Paso with my animals and what was left of my belongings that I could fit in a 9’11” x 6’3” x 6’1” box, I’ve had…
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Official Decline to Prosecute, EPTX DA
I’ve not gotten into the event on Christmas Eve that ignited my desire to publish this site to advocate for myself and all aspects associated with domestic violence as a whole. I’ve started dribbling the site out there and know that some people may already know a version of the event. I’ve put tidbits of mine out there. I wanted to make sure- at a minimum, no matter what you are hearing, you can see the DA dropped all the quackery. Ask yourself why?
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My 2nd Facebook post showing more of my personal experiences
I was leaving Virginia to fly to El Paso to get my animals and …optimistically 😬… my belongings. I had not posted anything since for first months ago, and I didn’t even respond to everyone from that who wrote me. It’s not natural to put personal “baggage” (for a lack of a better word) on Facebook; it’s even more horrifying to put your lame relationship on blast. I’ve not even felt confident enough to begin posting advocacy articles or something benign – like a purple frame around my photo. But, I was about to get my things, my abuser told the courts there was nothing for me to fear, as…
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No, my ex does not need details about my travel- DV abuser red flags to watch for!
My ex attempting to get my attorney to give his attorney details about my visit to Texas that he does not need. He has already told the judge in a hearing that he would be out of the state and in Colorado during the days I’m in Texas. This did not raise red flags to my lawyer, his lawyer, his lawyer’s paralegal. Three safeguards he passed through. At a minimum… this is a warning sign of the abuser’s need to control, dominate, and let me know he has that power. At maximum… he’s getting the detailed information for more nefarious reasons to cause me harm- including death. Family law offices…
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Video Journal: March 04, 2023
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Video Journal: February 10, 2023
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Video Journal: May 27, 2021
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This is not how someone should talk to you if you express a different opinion
I’d definitely learned to walk away, to close my mouth, to “just stop” as my husband demanded anytime he felt I was questioning anything he had to say. Were there times where I continued to disagree with my husband – yes. Should I have been able to have a calm conversation with my husband where I expressed a different opinion or thought – yes. Should I have been able to express a different opinion than my husband without him raising his voice at me, buffing, and raging – yes. I fought to understand why I was so “argumentative” as my husband would tell me. I bought freaking self-help books to…
